How Often Should You Meet With a Spiritual Director? (Why Monthly Works)

We are often tempted to treat spiritual growth like a crash diet: intense, fast, and unsustainable. But formation is usually slower than we want—and kinder than we expect.

Why monthly sessions are often ideal

  • Space to integrate. You have time to live the prayer, not just talk about it.
  • Room to notice patterns. Repetition reveals what’s actually forming you.
  • Sustainable rhythm. Monthly keeps the door open without adding pressure.
  • Gentle accountability. Not the shame kind—more like a lighthouse you return to.

Between sessions, you might experiment with a practice, pay attention to a recurring theme, or simply learn to name what’s going on inside you. Then you return—not with a “report,” but with your real life.

If you’re in a particularly tender season, some people choose twice-monthly for a short time. But for many, monthly is the sweet spot: steady, spacious, faithful.

Work With Me: 60-minute sessions, once per month, $75/session. First session is free. Learn more here.